Do you ever feel like no matter how nice you are girls aren’t attracted to you? Or they friend zone you? I don’t know how many times I’ve heard a guy say “Girls don’t like nice guys.” Or “Girls just want jerks or bad boys.” Although it does look like that, there’s something jerks have that nice guys don’t. A backbone. They say no. They don’t let the person they are interested in walk all over them. So what may you be doing wrong?
She wants a ride somewhere? You say okay. Wants you to pay for her? You do. Needs a shoulder to cry on? You are there. You notice yourself just giving and giving. Simply put you are a pushover and easy to walk all over.
What you should do instead: Say NO sometimes. It’s okay to put you first sometimes and if you genuinely don’t want to do something it’s okay to say no. She will survive. Of course, you can still be nice and help her out and say yes a lot of the time but sometimes learn to say no. Saying no will relieve your stress and make her not use you as a doormat. You don’t always have to save her.
If you are a nice guy you may have a hard time telling a girl when she’s being a jerk because you don’t want to hurt her feelings or maybe fear she’ll leave. So many different reasons. But that’s something important every girl needs. No one likes being with someone they can push around.
What you should do instead: Challenge her. Tell her when she’s wrong. If she’s being nasty let her know. Don’t let her treat you like garbage and not say anything. If you feel she’s genuinely in the wrong there is nothing wrong with letting her know. Don’t be scared of arguments. They help you both grow. Don’t tolerate her b.s.
Are you the type of guy to ask a girl if you can kiss her? Do you ever notice yourself fishing for someone to tell you, you are attractive or you are a good guy? Do you have a hard time making eye contact or slouch? Maybe even talking in an unconfident manner. Saying sorry when it’s not necessary. Using maybe a lot. (Lol guess I’m unconfident because I just said maybe. Kidding.)People catch onto that.
What you should do: Work on being confident. Write a list and figure out your strengths, your achievements, and your weaknesses. If you have a hard time with this ask a trusted friend or family member to help you. Remind yourself of your strengths and work on your weaknesses every day. Take care of your hygiene daily. Be bold and don’t always ask for permission when it may not be necessary. Try to look back and take notice of why you are unconfident or where it may have started.
You may always be around. Maybe you are too needy and always trying to talk to her or hang out.
What you should do instead: Have your own life. Be busy. Join a club or a charity or spend time with your family and friends. You need time to yourself and you guys need time to miss each other.
If you had your favorite meal every day wouldn’t you eventually not want it anymore? That’s kind of what it’s like when you overdo it with compliments. Compliments and gifts are nice but when it’s overly done, it loses its value. People value things when they are done less often and unexpected.
What You should do instead: Do it less frequently. Do it on special occasions like maybe when she’s sick or she achieved something or you had a huge fight. Even try on random date nights.
How many times do you or someone you know has a crush on someone and their crush has no idea? or you start dating a girl and it goes nowhere? Probably because you didn’t let her know what you wanted!
What you should do instead: Make it clear what you want. If you have feelings for someone let them know, if you want to do something tell them. You don’t have to sacrifice everything. Your needs and wants matter.
At the end of the day, you can be a nice guy and still get the girl. Don’t blame being nice or that girls are a problem. The problem is being a pushover. Girls genuinely want a nice guy, but they want a nice guy that’s confident and can’t be pushed around. That’s why bad boys win over nice guys. Girls would prefer being treated not in the best way over having someone that they can walk all over. Don’t let anyone walk all over you. You deserve better than that.
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