Jealousy is when you are having insecurities that you are lacking in something or fears of something being taken away. This could cause a range of emotions to come out like hatred or anger or even sadness/feelings of unworthiness. Jealousy is something that can be a taboo topic that people sometimes have a hard time admitting. We don’t want to be seen as jealous as it can make us feel vulnerable and looked down upon.
Jealousy is something that starts in our upbringing. It can start based on the things our family/friends/peers said to us or even the way we saw our parents interact. If we are not taught how to be kind to ourselves or shown what good self-esteem looks like, then we will have a lot of insecurities which then leads to feeling fearful and jealous.
Also in today’s society, there is a lot of pressure from social media to be and look a certain way. We feel like if we don’t we are not good enough. When we see people that have the things we want, we start to hate them or feel bad about ourselves and have negative thoughts. This is our subconscious thoughts coming out about not feeling good enough or not feeling worthy.
The first thing to do is to figure out why you are jealous. Are your thoughts towards yourself really negative? Do other people have things you wish you had? Are you afraid of losing things? Admit your jealousy and bring awareness to this jealousy. Then it is important to tackle the issue.
When we are feeling jealous we may put others on pedestals and feel like they have everything and have such a great life. Or we may be telling ourselves such awful things about ourselves, we are affirming our insecurities daily. Rather than filling your head about other people’s lives or telling yourself negative things about you, work on that self-love. Accept and love yourself. Remind yourself the good about you and accept your flaws. This is you and whoever does not accept you is not worthy of being in your life.
Just because someone has something you want, does not mean you can’t have it as well. There is enough success to go around. You focusing on what everyone else has, hurts your chances of getting what you want. That is wasting negative energy when that energy could go towards yourself. Even if something has happened where you can’t get the thing you had always wanted. You can change your dream to something more realistic and still strive to get what you want in a different way. You can always make it happen.
Hold On, hold on before you want to choke me for saying that, hear me out! Whatever that person is doing, it is something good and they are happy. When you look at it from a different perspective it will shift the insecurity and jealousy into positive feelings. You can find common ground. You can still have the things you want but it doesn’t have to involve hating on someone else for you to have what you want. They are most likely just minding their business living their life. They are not the problem.
It is okay to be jealous and have insecurities! We all have been there. It is important for you to call yourself out, be aware of it. Remind yourself it isn’t all that it is made out to be, they have flaws too and watch what you are telling yourself. Be kind to yourself. uplift yourself! Work on that self-love and focus on yourself and what is best for you. you are worthy and deserving of great things too.
What do you guys think? Is jealousy something you have struggled with? Do you have a story to share? Leave it all in the comments below!
