We all have been through those awkward encounters where someone tries to hit on us or make a pass and we just are not interested. Everyone reacts differently. Some ignore, some are harsh, and some lead the person on to later not be interested. Whatever the case rejecting and getting rejected can be hard! So how do you do it? Side note: This does not apply to overly aggressive disrespectful people that try to sexually harass you, stay close to friends and alert authority immediately if someone makes you feel threatened in any way. Do not try to play tough guy or think it’s okay to be treated in such a manner. Stay safe!
You don’t know how long it took that person to build up the courage to come and talk to you. Maybe they are someone that has anxiety and it’s their first time attempting to talk to someone. Maybe they just went through a bad breakup. Whatever the case, keep in mind it can take a lot to come up to someone and attempt to talk to them! Remeber how they may feel.
A lot of people get irritated when people approach them that they just aren’t interested in. You are totally entitled to your feelings. Some people just don’t want their time to be wasted or entertain someone. On the other hand, you could really ruin them approaching someone for the rest of their lives based on how you react. Whether you act not interested in a cold way or you pretend you’re interested for them to later find out it was a lie.
Let them get out what they needed to say. No one should be penalized for just talking. We need human interaction now more than ever. If they start with small talk, try to be nice and engage in the conversation. Maybe you will come to find out you are interested but were quick to shoot them down! Maybe you’ll realize even more after talking you are not interested. Give it a shot. You could get some good conversation and a couple compliments out of it. Remember it takes a lot to go up to someone! If they are just straightforward with asking you out then that’s when the next step applies.
So eventually after small talk, they will most likely compliment you or ask for your number or to hang out. This is the perfect opportunity for you to let them know you are not interested. You don’t have to explain yourself, you can just thank them and let them know you aren’t interested. Some people think by giving hints it’s enough. No, it’s best you outspokenly let them know. Pretend you are Barbara Corcoran and let them know, it’s a no from you.
This especially is for the people that feel bad trying to reject someone but don’t know how. If you don’t genuinely want to hang out with them let them know! It is a lot easier for the both of you to be honest first hand, than have to play like you are interested for them to get hurt later. No matter what they may wind up upset and which is better? To do it sooner or later? You are not at fault for them being upset. You are doing them a favor by being honest and not wasting either of your time.
People tend to think by repeatedly answering and letting the other person know they aren’t interested, it will make them go away. But that is the opposite. This goes for anything but if someone keeps getting an answer, they will see that as a way to keep trying! If someone keeps bothering you by calling you or texting you, don’t answer and even block them if you have to. If someone doesn’t accept no in person, walk away or alert someone depending on where you are at the time. No answer means no way of trying. It’s kind of like when you have a screaming toddler if you keep talking they scream more, if you walk away they eventually stop. Adults are just kids in big people bodies.
“A clear rejection is always better than a fake promise.”
In any event, rejection makes people uncomfortable on both sides. Everyone handles rejection differently. Just try and be considerate of the people that you are rejecting. How would you want to be rejected? I mean obviously, of course, you don’t want to be but if you had to, how would you want it to happen? Consider that the next time you are faced with having to reject someone. I hope this was helpful!
What do you think? Do you have any other ways to reject others? Do you have rejection experiences you want to talk about? Share it in the comment section below!
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