Hey my names lily and I’m really scared of death I stay up crying and thinking about my loved ones dying and going to hell and it’s all I think about I even dream about it! I don’t want my family to wind up suffering for life… I feel like it’s pushing me away from God cuz I am so scared. I love them so much I don’t want them hurting. I saw in the Bible “Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will. enter into the Kingdom of Heaven; but he who. does the will of my Father who is in heaven.” Mathew 7:21. My whole family is very religious but I’m afraid they’re not godly enough and I know that is an awful thing to say but I just want them ALL in heaven. Please reply… I don’t want to keep feeling this pain and fear.
Hey Lily!
I am so incredibly sorry you too are struggling with this fear. That’s what majority of my childhood was like so I know the torment it can bring.
First thing I would say is the bible can be misinterpreted. We don’t speak the language they did back then and words may have meant one thing back then but may have a completely different meaning now. Also the way we interpret the bible may only be in the way we see things but that may not be what it means. People pick and choose what means what.
Which leads to my next point…you decide what you believe and what fits with you. The uncertainty is what is causing you pain. Another article that may help is my ones on negative thoughts. Your imagination is going wild and it is causing immense fear. You can not control what happens in the after life. Focus on what matters now. Be the best person you can be. Do things you enjoy. With time and confidence in your beliefs this too will pass. There is more I could say but for now I will leave it at that. I hope this helped. Please let me know if you need anything!
Hi Missy,
When I read your story I felt so relieved that there was someone else out there going through what I’ve been experiencing over 20 years. Ever since I left a Christian sect that preached condemnation I have thought about hell every day of my life. My thoughts of doom and gloom manifested to tragedies happening in my life and even though I overcame them and lead a productive life the eternal afterlife of hell is so in grained in me that every night I go to bed I have terrifying and strange dreams that something bad is going to happen. More recently I’ve been seeing on YouTube people who have had near death experiences and have seen hell. All my debilitating feelings are coming back and make me feel like unless I live a perfect holy life I am doomed. I don’t know if I will ever get over but I just feel so not alone hearing others out there.
Hello, I am a Christian, in fact the whole reason I became one was because I thought I was dying all the time in my early 20’s, but it was actually panic attacks, I did good for a while and had a heart to save the lost and talk to anyone who would listen about salvation, well making some bad life choices, losing a marriage and job I’m 47 now and have to live with my elderly mother. I worry constantly about dying and going to hell again. I am on medication to help with panic attacks some of which landed me in the hospital because my heart was racing and thought I was dying..anyways it was refreshing for me to see there are others who think as I do and appreciate you writing this article! 🙂
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Hi. My name is Shea. I just recently found God and now I’m constantly anxious about death and he’ll. I’m terrified of it. I’m scared if I go to heaven my loved ones won’t be there and I’m just afraid of hell in general. It’s been consuming me to the point I feel like I’m going crazy. I’m going to church tomorrow to see if that makes me feel better. I’m losing it and I could really use your help. Please reply. Urgent.
Hey shea! I am so incredibly sorry you are struggling with overwhelming fear of hell. Please know you are not alone and this is a common fear when being religious. The reason why it’s so scary is because it’s a fear of the unknown and a fear of not having that definite answer of knowing what’s wrong or right. The thing is Everyone interprets what the Bible says differently. So there really is no clear answer. When I struggled with this, Something I asked myself was “do I want to believe in a God that will throw me or my loved ones to hell?” I can’t even bare the thought of doing that to them so why would a God I believe in do that too?
Also you focusing on hell and your loved ones going is causing you to miss out in the present moment and making memories with them. I want you to ask yourself, what about hell scares you? Have you suffered in life and you are afraid of suffering for eternity? Are you afraid of disappointing God? What about hell scares you? You fearing hell won’t make it less likely or more likely of it happening. You get to determine what you believe or don’t believe. What do you feel is right? Trust and follow yourself, your intuition. What do you want to believe in? You can’t read Gods mind or have all the answers. All you can do is be the best person you can be and focus on what you can control. You can control what you do present day. I know this is easier said than done but I promise it gets better. Our imagination can run wild and make things seem really scary but it doesn’t mean that’s what reality is. Hope this helped. Let me know if you need anything!